CUMMING IN MY WIFE
OLDER WOMEN AND YOUNGER MEN
On the one hand, it's immensely flattering. And it can't be denied - young guys are yummy. On the other hand, we obsess: Can a May/September relationship work? Should we go for it? And what to these young guys see in us, anyway?
"Who isn't attracted to success, smarts and experience? Perhaps he enjoys the mentoring or the emotional stability of a women who knows her mind and her heart," says Tina Tessina, a California psychotherapist and author of 11 books, including The The Smartest Decisions a Woman Can Make After Forty and The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again.
Brian, 39, a sales manager, had his first fling with an older woman when he was 19. He recently dated a sexy 70-year old. "I've always gravitated to women who are older than I am," he says. "Older women don't play games. They are more settled down. They are financially stable. They are experienced sexually. ANd many women think, act, and look young."
In other words, ladies, we're hot! Here's why a younger man can be your perfect match:
1. We want to have fun
"Young guys are up for fun stuff, like in-line skating and skiing,"says Jennifer, 41, a public relations executive. "Older guys want to go to dinner. Boring!"
2. We're grown-ups
While men our age may take us for granted, young men appreciate our life experiences and maturity. "My younger man likes that we have intelligent conversations," says Barbara, 35, a marketing manager for an internet company, who dates a man 10 years her junior.
3. We're sexy - and they are too
Women in their 30's, 40's and beyond are at their sexual prime - which means we're a pretty good match for a young guy's raging libido. Jason, a 25-year-old salesman, has dated several women 10 or more years older than he is. "Young guys are physically attracted to older women, and older women are attracted to young guys. So what's the problem?" he says.
4. Age is irrelevant
Many May/September couples have found that the age gap is a non-issue. "My friends ask me in fun,'Are you still dating the infant?'" says Anne, 53, a private detective who is seeing a man 14 years younger. "But sometimes people just click, and age becomes secondary."
Is there a future in age-gap relationships?
Maybe; maybe not. Sure, a younger man may be in a different place in his career. Or he may want children, while you may have completed (or chosen not to start) your family.
But if you can handle those disparities, the relationship can work, says Nancy, 55, a medical technologist, who is happily married to a man 12 years younger.
"It's hard enough to find someone that you can truly connect with, so why make it tougher by limiting yourself to a certain age range?" she says. "No relationship comes with guarantees - regardless of age. But if you care about each other and are committed to each other, go for it!"
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